Kids need self esteem boosts, and sometimes we parents aren’t sure how to deliver the necessary shot in the arm of self confidence. The following are ten suggestions for boosting your child's self esteem.
Provide supportive praise that acknowledges choices and is specific in nature. It’s not enough to say, “You’re a good kid.” Children need to hear specifics, like, “I appreciate how hard you worked on this science project.” They need to hear you mention exactly what they did right.
Compliment your child on unique characteristics. Nab opportunities to praise your child for doing something right.
Give your child your time. When you prioritize your child over other obligations, you are communicating how important he or she is to you.
Listen attentively when your child speaks. Actively listen by maintaining eye contact and asking questions.
Get behind your child's interests. That may mean sending your child to lessons, practicing with your child, and listening to him or her talk about the subject.
When you have to correct your child, focus on your child's ability to do the right thing. Keep believing that your child will obey and learn this lesson, even if it takes time.
Smile at your child. Keep in mind that you are the primary authority figure in your child's life, and a sober expression can be upsetting.
Shower your child with affection. Your touch means so very much to your child.
Take note when your child overcomes an obstacle. This is even more powerful if your child has repeatedly failed in one area. Your compliment will make your child believe he or she can succeed.
Post evidence of your child’s success somewhere it can be seen.
Extra Tip: Read parenting books for more ideas on how to boost self esteem. Parents of preteen girls may like
Reviving Ophelia, and parents of quarreling sublings may benefit from
Siblings Without Rivalry. If you have a son, check out
Raising Cain, and if you have an opinionated, stubborn child, check out
Raising Your Spirited Child.
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