Ten Tips For Boosting Your Child's Self Esteem

Kids need self esteem boosts, and sometimes we parents aren’t sure how to deliver the necessary shot in the arm of self confidence. These ten tips will help you give your child the self esteem boosts he or she needs.

Provide supportive praise that acknowledges choices and is specific in nature. It’s not enough to say, “You’re a good kid.” Children need to hear specifics, like, “I appreciate how hard you worked on this science project.” They need to hear you mention exactly what they did right.

Pay compliments to your child, commenting on the characteristics that make him or her shine. Look for things to affirm your child on that will make her see you notice her.

Give your child your time. Every minute you spend with your child shouts the message “you are important to me”.

Give your child your full attention when he or she is speaking. Show you are listening by nodding and asking questions.

Support your child’s interests. You can do this by supporting your child with lessons, buying supplies your child needs to pursue an interest, or supplying transportation to and from activities.

When you must discipline your child, do so assuming your child will listen and obey. Keep believing that your child will obey and learn this lesson, even if it takes time.

Think about your facial expressions, being sure to smile. Keep in mind that you are the primary authority figure in your child's life, and a sober expression can be upsetting.

Show your child you love him or her by being affectionate. Your touch means so very much to your child.

Make note when your child grows. This is even more powerful if your child has repeatedly failed in one area. Your compliment will make your child believe he or she can succeed.

Honor your child's successes by posting medals, certificates, and good report cards where they can be viewed.

Extra Tip: Read parenting books for more ideas on how to boost self esteem. Parents of preteen girls may like Reviving Ophelia, and parents of quarreling sublings may benefit from Siblings Without Rivalry. Parents of boys may benefit from Raising Cain, and parents of overactive kids may enjoy Raising Your Spirited Child.