Ten Ways to Boost Your Child's Self Esteem

Mind is All

Children of all types and abilities need continual self esteem boosts delivered daily. The following are ten suggestions for boosting your child's self esteem.

Provide supportive praise that acknowledges choices and is specific in nature. While saying, "Good job," is fine, it's even better to say, "You did a good job cleaning up after yourself in the art room," which shows you noticed the specific choice.

Tell your child what you like about him or her, saying exactly what it is you appreciate. Nab opportunities to praise your child for doing something right.

Invest quality time with your kid. When you spend time with your child, you're saying your child is important to you.

Listen attentively when your child speaks. Nod, affirm your child, and ask questions that show you are paying attention and care.

Support your child’s interests. Pay for lessons, go to practices, listen to your child’s enthusiasm, and get excited about the things that make your child happy.

When you must discipline your child, do so assuming your child will listen and obey. Keep believing that your child will obey and learn this lesson, even if it takes time.

Give your child a warm smile. Keep in mind that you are the primary authority figure in your child's life, and a sober expression can be upsetting.

Be affectionate with your child. Touch is a basic human need, and you are the most important person in the whole world to your child.

Make note when your child grows. This is especially important if your child has struggled in a subject. Your compliment will make your child believe he or she can succeed.

Hang up medals, ribbons, and certificates where people can see them.

Bonus Tip: Stock up on parenting books that will give you more strategies for improving your child's self esteem. If you have a preteen daughter, read Reviving Ophelia; if you have kids who can't get along, read Siblings Without Rivalry. If you have a son, check out Raising Cain, and if you have an opinionated, stubborn child, check out Raising Your Spirited Child.